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by Teresa Newsome and Kathleen Ferraro
Updated: June 16, 2021
Originally Published: May 27, 2016
Division of labor can be a major source of contention when it comes to feeling taken for granted, says O’Reilly.
If your partner expects you to cook, clean, shop, take care of pets or children, or do other household tasks without any recognition, that could be a sign they’re not fully appreciating your contributions.
She suggests making a list of everything that needs to get done around the house — not to keep score, but to open up the conversation about how much effort each of you is putting into your shared responsibilities.
“We tend to underestimate what other people do and overestimate what we do,” she tells Bustle. “But it’s hard to know what somebody else is doing because we’re not always there, which is why it’s important to have these conversations.”
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